Firstly, congratulations on looking for some kind of support. It takes a lot of courage to do that! So congrats!
The 12 Step Program I’m talking about is called Al-Anon. It’s for friends and family of alcoholics, although some people in the program identify themselves as growing up in a very controlling home, or growing up in a home where expressing their feelings was never okay. Some people in the program don’t identify with alcoholism at all, but have had experiences growing up in a home where there was chaos or controlling behaviour. There is a whole variety of people in there. Wives, daughters, husbands, sons, sometimes even just friends of people who have issues with alcohol or other addictive behaviours. It’s a powerful program. And I can’t even begin to tell you how much my life has changed since I started going.
There are meetings all over the world, and it’s recommended that you try at least 6 meetings (in quick succession) before you decide if you want to keep going. Try a few different meetings, as each one has a different group of people and a different vibe, and you will feel more at home in certain meetings than others. There is the mention of god in the program too – but don’t freak out. It’s not a religious program, it’s a spiritual program.
You are you can find out more at http://www.al-anon.org/australia/ - there are tonnes all over Melbourne and the rest of the world. I’ve been to meetings in Indonesia, America… you name it! So if you’re not in Australia, they are all over the world. Just google Al Anon and your area. Please note : this is different from AA. AA is for alcoholics, this is for friends / family of alcoholics.
Thanks for being brave enough to get in touch! Even if you don’t have an alcoholic connection, I’d encourage you to try it.
Lots of love and remember you are not alone!